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15 Ways To Know If You’re Dating a Man or Boy

Let’s be clear: not every boy becomes a man. When dating, knowing how to distinguish between the two will save you time, energy, money and even heartache.

Here are 15 ways you can separate the men from the boys

1. What Are His Priorities?

A man does first what needs to be done, but a boy does only what he wants to do.


2. Does He Have Goals?

“The man is aiming at a goal; the boy is drifting aimlessly.” — Author Unknown


3. How Responsible Is He?

Men make and keep commitments, boys don’t. Think about it.


4. How Does He Refer to You?

Boys want a “wifey.” Men want a “wife.”


5. Can He Communicate?

A boy tells you about his day. A man will ask you about yours – and listen.


6. Does He Have a Strong Work Ethic?

Boys consume. Men produce. Case closed.


7. Can You Trust Him?

You can put your trust in a man. Your trust is always lost with a boy. No exceptions.


8. Does He Know Who He Is?

Boys dress, talk and act like everyone else. Men emulate no one and form their own identity.


9. Does He Want to Stimulate His Mind?

Men are never afraid to ask questions. Boys think they have it all figured out.


10. Is He Serious About His Future?

Boys chase girls and women. Men chase family. #realtalk


11. Does He Ever Pick Up the Phone?

Boys send text messages. Men call. Again, no exceptions.


12. What Is His Purpose?

Boys exist in stagnation. Men embrace change.


13. Does He Have Baggage?

Boys have more liabilities. Men possess more assets.


14. How Does He Handle the First Date?

Boys split the check. Men (always!) pay.


15. Does He Consider Others?

Boys are selfish. Men are selfless.


While none of us “have it all together,” it’s supremely important to only invest your time, energy, and emotions into a partner (or a potential partner) who is not only committed to his own betterment, but yours, as well. If you can answer these 15 questions confidently, then congratulations! You just may have found a man.




Paul C. Brunson

Mentor, Entrepreneur, & Television Host. My goal is to help you live your best life. I’m the world’s most influential matchmaker, founded and exited three businesses, host two television shows, spent nearly a decade working directly for a billionaire, and share my experiences by mentoring through Knowledge Share