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How To Pitch Yourself (to Become a Husband or a Wife)

How To Pitch Yourself (to Become a Husband or a Wife)

The following post is written by Jay Hurt. Jay is a Relationship Coach, columnist and author of the book, The 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship, for Singles. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook and his website.

A friend of mine was nice enough to share with me a comment she ran across as she was posting to her blog.  The comment read “I am a 65 year-old black man who wishes I was married, but I have never been married and it appears to me that I will never be married because I cannot write an acceptable resume for the occupation of husband.”  That’s candid, insightful and somewhat sad.  What do women expect from us when they are “taking applications?” 

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If Your Partner Can’t Be Selfless, Joint Money Management Will Be A Problem

If Your Partner Can’t Be Selfless, Joint Money Management Will Be A Problem

The following post is written by Jay Hurt. Jay is a Relationship Coach, columnist and author of the book, The 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship, for Singles. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook and his website.

Marriage is more than just a union of two people; it’s a union of two lives and everything in those lives.  It’s about more than just the romantic side.  It’s about combining lifestyles, families and philosophies about everything from parenting to health and wellness.

One very important “meeting of the minds” has to be on combining our lives and our money.  Assets, bank accounts, real estate, all of these things now belong to both of you.  If you go into the relationship not thinking this way, it’s a selfish perception, not a selfless perception. 

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10 Places to Meet a Man This Holiday Season

The one question I can’t seem to escape this time of year is: “Where do I meet single men, Paul?”

While I am not a believer in one ultimate Mecca for single men, I do know there are better places to meet men than others. Over the years as a professional matchmaker, I have spent a significant amount of time headhunting men as well as coaching female clients on where/how to meet men. The following list represents the 10 places with the highest yield (during the holiday season).

 

1) The Apple Store

 

Apple-Store

I have several friends who work for the company Steve Jobs built, and the data I hear is very compelling. In just one store in New York City, over the course of one year, four marriages and 12 commitment relationships were reported – that’s better odds than most online dating sites! Once you go Mac you don’t go back!

 

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5 Questions Men Should Ask BEFORE Approaching Women

5 Questions Men Should Ask BEFORE Approaching Women

The following post is written by Renita Bryant. She is the author of the critically acclaimed novella, Yesterday Mourning. You can follow her on Twitter and read her thought-provoking blog

A few weeks ago I was asked a very simple question, how ‘should’ a man approach a woman. While it seemed quite innocuous, I soon became overwhelmed by the weight and depth of those few words. Overwhelmed because as I tried to craft a simple wish list of what most women would want, I realized how much context plays a role in a first meeting. That context can’t be easily listed in a few steps and tied with a bow. Several factors influence how the first interaction should/could go – location (church, grocery store, or office holiday party?), connections (do they have mutual friends?), personal mood (is she too busy to be bothered?), etc.  There isn’t one way for a man to approach a woman because context matters. However, there is one consistent truth regardless of location, attitude, connections, and attire. A man should be prepared. So instead of telling men what to say or do after approaching a woman, here are 5 important questions men should ask and answer for themselves before venturing over for that first hello.

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What Relationship Compatibility Really Means

What Relationship Compatibility Really Means

The following post is written by Jay Hurt. Jay is a Relationship Coach, columnist and author of the book, The 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship, for Singles. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook and his website.

I am often reminded by my better half how when I listen to the suggestions she makes, things tend to run very smoothly.  She reminds me that she’s a planner and many things run better when we are prepared.  The fact I have her in my life helps me to learn to plan more carefully and more frequently.  I can be very spontaneous, which also has its advantages.  She learns from me how to live in the moment.  Although these traits are different, both add value to our relationship and we are very compatible.

In the beginning of a relationship, attraction will get you there, but compatibility is essential to keep you.  It’s also wise to understand having a lot in common does not necessarily make you compatible.  It is good to have some things in common, but if you both do all of the same things and think the same, where is the opportunity for you to enhance each other’s lives?  There have to be differences in each of us to bring enrichment to the lives of our mates.

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How To Know When You Should Respond To A Hater

I really hate to admit what I’m about to write but I also believe it will be therapeutic for me (and help many people). So here it goes…

 

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On November 26th, my wife and I were spending the day preparing for the arrival of our second son. I had taken off that day specifically to help with last minute household needs, to spend some quality time with my first son, and just relax and get in a good state of mind before the hecticness that comes with the arrival of a new baby.

Even though ”off” from working that day, I still made periodic check-ins to my personal and public social media accounts (my online community is such an integral part of my life, it’s not labor to make updates and respond to certain questions).

Little did I know, a single comment on Facebook would change the course of my day(s).

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Appearance Matters: A Guide To Making the Right Impression

Appearance Matters: A Guide To Making the Right Impression

The following post was written by Regina M. Tucker. Regina is a NCEA certified licensed esthetician, professional beauty writer, and business owner.  She holds a Master’s Degree in Human Resources Development. Please visit her website and follow her twitter

It had been a while since I had seen my friends and the transition from one to two sons had not been good on me both physically and mentally. The time had come for my new mother of two debut. I showed up at Chuck-E –Cheese (yes Chuck-E-Cheese) looking like the disheveled piece of work I was.  Ugg boots, corduroy pants with Gerber Graduate Apple Cinnamon puffs stuck to my bum, a disheveled pony tail, and my Hanes-Her-Way tee hanging tough. When I spoke I sounded like my usual self, dishing out the latest on anti-aging serums, and facial advancements, however I must confess I looked like a train wreck.

Sometimes a good message can be overshadowed by our personal appearance. Imagine sitting in the audience awaiting the presentation from a renowned motivational speaker, as they make their way to the podium to address the audience, they stop to speak to you and in that moment you notice not only do they have day old broccoli stuck in their teeth but it also looks as if they slept in their suit.  Talk about leaving an impression! From making a new-mom-debut or simply heading out with friends we all want to make a good impression and it is important to take care of the physical details.  Here are a few beauty and grooming tips to help you make a lasting physical impression.

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Let’s Test That Theory…

Let’s Test That Theory…

The following post was written by Desiree M. Mondesir. Desiree is the author of Godly Government, Faith and the Imagination, and How to Write Fiction that Doesn’t Suck. Please follow her on twitter and visit her website.

I was once hanging out with two friends on a late-night IHOP binge. One was a guy friend, the other was my ex. I was originally seated by my guy friend, that was until my ex decided it’d be better if I sat by him. So I did. And by some stroke of idiocy, he started asking me about my “kissing rules.” (What rules I had for kissing guys.) And I told him, “I only kiss guys I date; only guys I’m in an actual relationship with.” And he slyly said, “That’s a very nice theory…but let’s test that theory…

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The Importance of Forgiveness

The Importance of Forgiveness

The following post is written by Jay Hurt. Jay is a Relationship Coach, columnist and author of the book, The 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship, for Singles. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook and his website.

As a relationship coach and someone who writes for the premier matchmaker in the country, I have the tools and resources to deal with relationship issues not only for others but in my own situations as well.  Before I decided to take this journey to study and learn about the science of relationships, how they work and what makes us do the things we do within the context of a relationship, I had a good sense of self and how to treat a woman.  That said, like most men, I wasn’t without my challenges on how to deal with women.  I want to discuss one of those here.

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I’ve Got a Baby On My Mind [Photos]

As my wife and I eagerly anticipate the arrival of our next son, we’ve been reminiscing on the early days with our first son Kingston. We’d like to share with you some photos of Kingston at only 11 days old. Hope you enjoy!

Photos were taken by the amazing: Danielle Hobbs

 

Kingston Collage

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