Category Archives: Inspiration

30 Steps To A Better You – The Journey Begins!

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WWII veteran Ed Bray was 89 years old when he finally learned how to read the medals he’d been awarded for his bravery. He’d been illiterate for the majority of his life, a secret he hid with the help of his wife, who died in 2009 and close friends.

But he’d been ashamed. It was like he was only living half his life because he couldn’t fully appreciate it all.

While you and I may be literate, we all have things in our life that hold us back from fully appreciating our lives. Maybe it’s our fears. Maybe it’s how we feel about our bodies, or our minds. Maybe it’s emotional or mental. Maybe it’s our relationships – family, friends, significant others – and how those relationships are faring. Are they thriving or failing? And if they’re failing, how is that holding us down?

I’m here to propose that just because you’ve always been one way, doesn’t mean you have to stay that way. Just like Ed Bray didn’t have to remain illiterate, we don’t have to remain unable to find and enjoy the things we want in life.

But how do we get there?

It starts in the same way it started for Bray. We have to learn.

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14 Proven Ways To Create Your Own Happiness :-)

14 Proven Ways To Create Your Own Happiness :-)

You are responsible for your own happiness.

That’s what our marriage counselor told my wife and me a few days before we jumped the broom. At the time, I didn’t get it. I thought as a couple, we were supposed to complete each other and therefore make each other happy. It didn’t fully register until a few years into our marriage that no matter how well intentioned my wife or I were, we could not “change” each other and therefore our ability to “make” each other happy was futile. Sure, I could tell a joke and make her laugh or she could surprise me with tickets to the game and light up my face with a smile but ultimately those things were not happiness, they were kind acts with kind responses. Happiness is much greater, it’s much deeper, and it can only be self-directed.

If you are struggling with your own happiness, the following are 14 things you must know:

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Married Couples Share 10 Secrets To A Strong Relationship

Married Couples Share 10 Secrets To A Strong Relationship

I had the honor of attending a beautiful wedding for a client this past weekend. Every wedding I’ve attended has its unique aspects and this one was no different.

At a certain point in the ceremony, the MC asked all of the married couples in attendance to stand and give the newlyweds advice on how to build a strong marriage.  One by one, couples who were married from 12-years to 37-years stood and waxed poetic with insight.

I was so mesmerized by the abundance of advice that I jotted down some notes. Here are 10 bits of wisdom shared by the married couples:

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How I Sold My First 10,000 Books (4 Lessons To Help You)

If you haven’t yet published a book, know one thing – it is ridiculously challenging. Not only is the writing and editing process tough, the marketing phase makes grown adults cry.

Selling books is very hard.

There are somewhere between 600,000 and 1,000,000 books published every year in the U.S. alone.  On average, they sell less than 250 copies each (I had to recheck that 250 figure a few times because I couldn’t believe it, but it’s correct).

Prior to my book being published in October of 2012, I thought I would crush it in sales. I had strategy after strategy after strategy. It turns out, when the book launched it came no where near my sales goal in the first week, 30 days, or 3 months. However, I readjusted, readjusted more, and then readjusted even more and soon enough hit a sales stride.

By the 5th month after publishing, I reached 10,000 books sold. To this day, my book sales remain strong and I’m proud of the markers hit (including #1 Amazon Relationship Book and #1 Amazon Happiness Book).

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My book’s Amazon book rankings in March 2013.

My sales journey is only 3 years old and it has already been eye opening. In an effort to help you if you’re struggling with the book sales process or just simply to give insight if you’re currently crushing it on the marketing end, I’d like share the top 4 sales lessons I’ve learned in my book journey.

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If You Want Plan A to Work, You Must Burn Plan B!

If You Want Plan A to Work, You Must Burn Plan B!

There are many ideas on how to become successful. Never have I come across one as simple and powerful as this: Burn Your Ships!

This idea comes from the story of Spanish Conquistador Hernando Cortez.

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7 Reasons Why I’d Never Cheat On My Wife

7 Reasons Why I’d Never Cheat On My Wife

This is an actual conversation that took place between myself and a staffer (supplied by the venue) at one of my events:

Guy: C’mon son, I know you’re married, but don’t tell me you ain’t smashin’ none of these hotties that be comin’ to yo events?

Me: Nope.

Guy: C’mon son?

Me: Nope.

Guy: You crazy Paul, you crazy in the head… even if I was married I would be runnin’ all through them hoes.

Me: That’s because you haven’t grown up yet.

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Stop Half-Assing and Start Whole-Assing!

Throw away your Playstation and delete Words With Friends.

If your goal is to achieve your highest level of greatness, there is only one route. You must work your ass off (at one thing).

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