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(30 Steps to a Better You): Step #8: Do You Know Your Personality Type?

(30 Steps to a Better You): Step #8: Do You Know Your Personality Type?

“Personality has power to uplift, power to depress, power to curse, and power to bless.” ~Paul Harris 

What’s your type?

And I’m not asking what type you’d prefer to date. Let’s talk personality.

This next step in our “30 Steps to a Better You” series was covered extensively in my book, “It’s Complicated.” Knowing your personality type (and how that fits with the personality types of others) is an integral part of better understanding ourselves and improving our relationships.

Essentially, there are four basic personality types – Promoter, Supporter, Controller, and Analyzer. While there may be some overlap (you could be a promoter type with some controller tendencies) most of us tend to fall into one of those four distinct categories.

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(30 Steps to a Better You) Step #3: How To Write A Personal Vision Statement

“Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Jung, Swiss psychiatrist and psychotherapist

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A lot of us can see, but how many of us have vision?

Having “vision” is the ability to perceive or project a vivid mental image of your future, and crafting, breaking down and setting goals for the future are the next three steps in our 30 Steps to a Better You exercise.

Step three is all about creating your vision statement. According to Business News Daily, a vision statement is a “future-based” self-assessment that is “meant to inspire and give direction.” It’s all about what’s possible and what’s ambitious.

Now the first time I was presented with the idea of writing a personal vision statement I thought it was a joke … until I realized it actually worked! I saw how writing down and organizing my thoughts made me see my “vision” more clearly. It made it easier for me to plan ahead and act on things that would make what had been only a dream reality.

So how do you go about creating your vision statement? Well, we’re first going to start with an exercise I call “Tomorrow Is A Good Day.”

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(30 Steps to a Better You) STEP #2: Identify Your Passion

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“Passion is energy. Feel the power that comes from focusing on what excites you.” – Oprah Winfrey

In our next step in “30 Steps to a Better You,” it’s all about finding out what you love and working towards that, also known as finding your passion. It dovetails nicely into what was last week’s task, identifying our values. If you followed along and did the homework for that step – making a list and breaking down what your core values are, then acting upon them – you’ll be better prepared for this step where knowing your values is crucial.

Because now, we’re going to turn the things we value most into our passions.

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(30 Steps to a Better You) STEP #1: Identify Your Values

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“Our necessities never equal our wants.” – Benjamin Franklin

Would you want a sports car that couldn’t drive you anywhere? It would look nice. The stereo system is incredible. The rims are chrome and shining. But when it came to a car’s basic function – to get you from point A to point B – it couldn’t get you there. Would you still want it?

The answer is easy. No.

What’s the point of having a car if you can’t drive it? Because all those nice things, the stereo, the chrome, those are things you might like to have in a car, even want, but what you need is to get to work, to get to the grocery store, you need a ride and if it can’t give you one, what’s the point?

That’s the difference between a want and a need – and needs are values, the things that really matter to us.

I believe “identifying values” is the most important single exercise we can do regarding self-awareness. In this step, the first among our “30 Steps to a Better You,” is all about putting together a car that drives (or in this case a life that works) – by focusing on what really matters.

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30 Steps To A Better You – The Journey Begins!

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WWII veteran Ed Bray was 89 years old when he finally learned how to read the medals he’d been awarded for his bravery. He’d been illiterate for the majority of his life, a secret he hid with the help of his wife, who died in 2009 and close friends.

But he’d been ashamed. It was like he was only living half his life because he couldn’t fully appreciate it all.

While you and I may be literate, we all have things in our life that hold us back from fully appreciating our lives. Maybe it’s our fears. Maybe it’s how we feel about our bodies, or our minds. Maybe it’s emotional or mental. Maybe it’s our relationships – family, friends, significant others – and how those relationships are faring. Are they thriving or failing? And if they’re failing, how is that holding us down?

I’m here to propose that just because you’ve always been one way, doesn’t mean you have to stay that way. Just like Ed Bray didn’t have to remain illiterate, we don’t have to remain unable to find and enjoy the things we want in life.

But how do we get there?

It starts in the same way it started for Bray. We have to learn.

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