6 Reasons Why You Should Take A Dating Sabbatical

6 Reasons Why You Should Take A Dating Sabbatical

Many of you are not going to believe what I’m about to write. It is counter to what you would expect from a professional working in the dating industry – I’m going rogue with this one!

At this time of year, dating and relationships blogs are chock-full of posts about where and how you can increase summer romantic escapades. But let’s face it, an effective dating strategy is only as effective as you are ‘ready’ to date. The rub is that many people are simply not ready. Perhaps you recently got out of a relationship, maybe you have lost hope you will meet someone, or you could simply be tired of dating. For those reasons and more, I strongly encourage you to take a break. Yes, remove yourself from the dating scene! There are many perks to doing so. The following are my top 6 reasons for taking a summer dating sabbatical.

 

1) Become A Better Companion To Yourself

It’s amazing how many of us are our worst enemy. If you don’t enjoy your own company and find that you limit your own opportunities, it’s no wonder that dating is a struggle. Becoming a friend to yourself is the first step to becoming a friend to someone else.  Take the time to learn to love yourself more. You’ll become more kind, more calm, and the dating world will not seem as cruel as before.

 

2) Increase Your Social Circle

An important fact about how most people meet their spouse is that the top source is friends and family (not through dating sites, at work, or even by matchmakers). That said, while we can’t necessarily increase family, we can increase the number of our friends. When you spend less time dating, it allows more time to be spent strengthening old platonic relationships and building new ones.

 

3) You May Need A Sex Break!

Okay, so everyone doesn’t have sex casually when dating but we know there’s a whole lot of gettin’ between the sheets goin’ on these days. It’s reported that 72% of  people have had casual sex or a one-night stand…can someone say WOW. Taking time off from dating will give something else time off…yes, what’s below the belt. A sex hiatus not only eliminates chances of STDs, it spiritually strengthens you.

 

4) Build Up Your Passion

Spending less time dating allows you to rediscover forgotten hopes and hobbies. What were all the things you used to enjoy doing, but haven’t done in a while? Or perhaps there’s a skill you’ve always wanted to develop? Refocusing on you allows time and clarity to exclusively pursue personal interests, making your dating sabbatical a time to rejuvenate passion.

 

5) Learn To Love In New Ways

Romantic love isn’t the only love worth pursuing. You can love a parent, sibling, BFF, hairdresser, pet, blog, etc. And don’t forget that you can love yourself: your hair, your body, your derriere, your nose. Exploring new forms of love will allow you to redefine love.

 

6) A Fresh Pair Of Eyes Will See More

For everyone who has written a blog post, academic paper, or report for work, knows the adage of giving yourself a 24-hour break from writing in order to help you better see grammatical, spelling, or other errors. That day off gives you a fresh pair of eyes, to see things you didn’t previously. A dating sabbatical is no different. Typically when people come from a dating hiatus, the first thing mentioned is their surprise in their ability to see the red flags of those they had fallen for previously. Also, many are surprised to find the abundance of “available” singles now present.

 

What Are Your Thoughts About Taking a Dating Sabbatical? 

 

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CARON
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Paul… Really, you want to get into this at midnight? We need a top-secret private group to discuss these things! Stealth. I’m talking stealth.

Paul Carrick Brunson
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I’m seriously thinking about a private forum!

Alexia Mascall
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Hello, Paul. This is a great article! I like that you mentioned that many people are not ready for a relationship. This is something that I agree with; it tells people that they are not alone if they need to be single for a while and that there is no rush to be back in a relationship. Taking the time for yourself is healthy and it allows you to develop more as a person and focus on other things besides a relationship. It will allow a person to reenter the dating scene with clarity and purpose.

Paul Carrick Brunson
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Thanks for reading it!

Juliann Butler-Green
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I’ve been on a sabbatical for eight years Paul!
True story! Great advice though and taken to heart.

Paul Carrick Brunson
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It’s time to end the sabbatical now sis 🙂

shevette
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I have never heard of this before, but sounds like something to at least give a try. Anything that will make you a better person inside out is worth giving a try.

Paul Carrick Brunson
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It will!

Joy
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I havent heard sabbatical used in a long long time! This is amazingly so true. Self preparation is effective to prepare you for the person you are meant to be with. Number 5) Learn To Love In New Ways!
Learning to love like youve never been hurt goes way beyond just relational but spiritually emotionally mentally. Putting effort and pouring into others lives can bless an individual in tremendously! Those who have the most gives the most! This is another great article Paul!! Great job!

Paul Carrick Brunson
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Thanks so much Joy!

patricia
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I agree with this article because a lot of people have had one night stand because think the reason for this is because you don’t want to be involved in a relationship because the stressvof keeping it together it can be hard because a real relationship requires work on both parties and if one is working on and tje other party isn’t its not going to last this is a good article.

Paul Carrick Brunson
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Thanks for reading it Patricia!

Dawn Stewart
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i am loving this article , great !!!!

Paul Carrick Brunson
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Thanks Dawn!

Ebony
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This is a great article!

Paul Carrick Brunson
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Thanks Ebony!

Darlin Peter Puchigans
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Darlin Peter Puchigans

I been on a sabbatical for more than I care to have been and it wasnt by choice. So suck it

Paul Carrick Brunson
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If you want your situation to change, YOU have to change fam.

Nicci Soleil
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I just read this. Good advice and I’m a fan of your advice. I couldn’t agree more! I’m definitely going to continue to take a break.. Two yrs. since I’d been in a relationship and learning more about what I look for, etc. It is hard for singles especially when you know what you are looking for and possess those qualities but some of the men just aren’t there yet…smh

Shakira
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This is right on time for me! Just out of a relationship a month ago….friends and family urged me to get back out there instead of sulking. Went a speed dating event a week later, met someone, 3 dates and many conversations later, he stopped calling. Ugh…now back at square one. Think I’ll take this dating sabbatical you speak of… 🙂 thank you.

The Enchantress
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This is great advice for those who are not too dicknotized to follow it. Since I started my sabbatical from dating a while back, I have felt so much sharper mentally, I have been much happier emotionally, and I have not been caring about the stupid things people tangled up in the sex webs are saying and doing. People, you have control over the craziness that people try to bring to your life, but it won’t stop until you stop it.

lindsay
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this is a great peice of advice. personally…i fall for the same type of person over and over again and in taking a break, i can see why i attract them AND why they attract me! i can see the immaturity and others and myself now….and work on the things i’d like to change about myself to even be in a situation where i could meet someone who has the genuine qualities thati desire. not just the top layer of b.s. 🙂 thanks for reassuring my dating hiatus!

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Goldie
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Taking time off is the best thing I could have done. I’m much happier being with myself not by myself. It gives me time to be the person I want to attract. Thanks for the post. Turn down for what? Turn down ’cause you’re tired.

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