3 Success Habits I Learned In 3 Days From 3 Powerful Women

3 Success Habits I Learned In 3 Days From 3 Powerful Women

Recently, I had the best week ever. Within three days, I met three of the most successful women I had ever had the pleasure of shaking hands with. Each, known for success in different industries, each armed with different talents, and each of a different generation. However, despite their many differences, there were common themes I observed from my interactions with them that will forever change how I approach business and life.

 

First, I met Susan Taylor at a Caribbean awards dinner. Susan is considered to be one of the most powerful women in the history of publishing. She was the editor-in-chief of Essence magazine for nearly two decades.

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The next day, I had the pleasure of interviewing Taraji P. Henson for Black Enterprise’s Our World at the American Black Film Festival. With her starring role on Fox’s Empire, Taraji is one of the most in demand actresses today.

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Within 24-hours after meeting Taraji, I met Miko Branch at an event I co-founded called Weekend StartUp School. Miko is the co-founder of Miss Jessie’s, a natural hair products empire. Miko is also recognized for being a pioneer in the natural hair movement.

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Now, after speaking with each of these ladies, on three different days, in three different scenarios, three traits immediately stood out and are clearly reasons for their extraordinary career success.

 

1. Stay Hungry

They all alluded to currently feeling as if they have “only scratched the surface of what can be achieved” (as was said by Miko). Most illustrative of this point is Susan Talyor, who at 69-years of age has already accomplished several lifetimes of achievement yet told me “I’m just getting started in my career and my work.” I could see in her eyes how focused she was on doing more. In my interview with Taraji, she mentioned “I can’t slowdown because I’m not anywhere near where I should be,” suggesting that despite the fact she’s the most seen actress on TV in her role as Cookie on Empire, she aspires for much more. These women personify my favorite Steve Jobs quote: “stay hungry…”

 

2. Demand Your Worth

To be successful in any area of your life, you not only have to know your worth, you must have the courage to never accept less. Take Miko for instance, she grew her company alongside her sister Titi to become a multi-million-dollar global enterprise without a penny of investment. Not because they didn’t get investor offers, they actually got many. Including outright acquisition attempts, but the sisters never gave up a percentage of ownership (not even in times of dire need for cash) because no one could match what they believed the company was worth. Taraji said “for the last 15 years, you haven’t seen me in as many roles as other actresses because I refused to take parts that paid below my rate.” Susan stated “knowing your worth is what allows you to draw the line and give yourself to you first.” These ladies have keen self-awareness to know their value and they also possess an unwavering strength to turn away from anything or anyone who can’t see that value, as well.

 

3. Know Your Accessibility is Currency

I have the opportunity to be in a lot of VIP sections, namely because I host a syndicated TV show and popular bi-weekly video chat. So my invites normally come with a “Paul, be sure to mention this on your show :-).” Whenever I’m in one of these “elite spaces” I become the ultimate people watcher. I’ve always been curious about the characteristics of the most successful and popular, so I turn into a kid at the window of a candy store in any VIP room. For those of you who haven’t been up close to A-List entertainers, business moguls, or star athletes, it’s a lot of what you probably can imagine. A bunch of folks walking around with their nose up, avoiding eye-contact, and keeping their distance from the non-VIPs at all costs. That is of course, not if you’re Susan Taylor, Taraji P. Henson, or Miko Branch. I watched how all three ladies not only welcomed each and every person who came their way, handing out hugs and kisses, but each also remained focused on the person directly before them, giving the appearance of truly caring about each conversation they had. Taraji exemplified this perfectly, literally showing me her recently purchased iWatch within 2 minutes of us meeting. I’ve witnessed only a select number of other successful people do this and my belief is that real connections with your audience/fan base/following is what distinguishes those who achieve long-term success and lasting legacy with those who disappear after their 15 minutes of fame or who have tarnished reputations long after their death. No doubt the reputation of these ladies is strong and will be intact forever because they understand and embrace that their accessibility is also currency.

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About Paul C. Brunson
Mentor, Entrepreneur, & Television Host. My goal is to help you live your best life; in love and professionally. I’m the world’s most influential matchmaker, founded and exited three businesses, host two television shows, spent nearly a decade working directly for a billionaire, and share my experiences by mentoring and coaching thousands of people.
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CMe
CMe

This was a most enlightening review.  Those 3 success habits will take me far!  Thank You!

7galvin
7galvin

@PaulCBrunson HOW DO;BARBARA,OPRAH,N YOU GET USE 2 INTERVIEWING GREAT HUMANS/?MY HEART WOULD JUST JUMP OUT MY CHEST.STAR STRUCK MANNERS IS?

7galvin
7galvin

@PaulCBrunson YEAH ROLLER COASTER COMPOSURE.BE CALM EVEN THO THE HEART SCREAMS"GLAD 2 C YOU".LOL.

TigerAJRay
TigerAJRay

@PaulCBrunson That was a great read! Thank you for sharing. I learned a couple of things that I'm going to take on with me.

Fashion Meets Poetry
Fashion Meets Poetry

Watched your video… great insight into 3 successful women. Thanks for the reply :)

Eser Tözüm
Eser Tözüm

Awesome Paul! I speak 9 languages, being an interpreter/presenter/author and motivational speaker at the same time \U0001f604 Let me know when you are on this side of the globe, I'd love to interview you!

Paul Carrick Brunson
Paul Carrick Brunson

Lisa Higgins I believe the most important tool for all 3 women is the fact they don't think they've achieved everything they should have....is that feeling of not being complacent....they're hungry!

Paul Carrick Brunson
Paul Carrick Brunson

Michaele Mickey Acary I was able to answer this one in the video today - sorry for mispronouncing your name. How is it said correctly?

Paul Carrick Brunson
Paul Carrick Brunson

Andrew Roby Events thanks for your question. In terms of the first, I believe the focus should be on the problem you're solving. As you dig deeper at that problem, you'll find new tangent problems...these are the clues to your next steps. As far as your second question, this is something I struggle with but the answer is a good team. Remember, it takes team work to make the dream work!

Eser Tözüm
Eser Tözüm

Love your inspiring posts!! Keep up the good work \U0001f44f\U0001f44f Love from Istanbul \U0001f31f

Tasha Preudhomme
Tasha Preudhomme

Thanks for the info! I couldn't be in a room with a bunch of people who turn up their noses. However, I do believe in Taraji's practice of making people feel comfortable. It's usually considered being humble, as well as having compassion. Whatever it is....it works!

Paul Carrick Brunson
Paul Carrick Brunson

Kamilah Stapleton I'm going to answer this in a dedicated blog post. Great question!

Andrew Roby Events
Andrew Roby Events

What is the best way to determine what the next step is after already meeting great accomplishments? How do you expand your reach to do more than what you normally do?

Fashion Meets Poetry
Fashion Meets Poetry

As a former corporate executive, I am well-versed on strategy and marketing, however I have most recently become an entrepeneur and this game is a little bit different. I have more than the basics covered. I know my consumer, the value of my product, and how it's differentiated from my competitors. The challenge is exposure. My question for you in having met these 3 amazing women (and you for that matter) is this: Did any of them talk about what was the turning point that propelled them into this level of success (PR, marketing)? And as woman of color, what were some of their challenges in the beginning and as they became more successful? Look forward to hearing from you.

Natascha Saunders
Natascha Saunders

Great article on these 3 Powerful Women and their habits. I will be sharing your point about, 'Accessibility is also currency.' This fits right into my piece on branding for Blue Cross Blue Shield. I'll be sure to cite you Paul. Phenomenal articles that not only help me but that I can share with others in teaching. Thank you for what you do! WE are following......

Lisa Higgins
Lisa Higgins

I am really proud of these women. Question. What was the most important tool that had driven them to persevere in the entertainment industry?

EboniGreen
EboniGreen

Great post, Paul.   I'm constantly thinking about the actions, decisions, and habits that distinguish those with long term success from those with short term success.

Randy Swope
Randy Swope

Knowing and Selling ones Self worth is the biggest barrier for most. That's why promoters and agents make so much money. I saw a good friend take his successful business to a mega business through the efforts of his PR specialist getting him visible and selling his image. He went on to have multiple tv shows and corporate sponsorships. All starting from a warehouse and doing kid's parties. People and businesses are the same in having a product or service but need to professionals to help promote and build strategy.

Kamilah Stapleton
Kamilah Stapleton

What do you do when you don't have mentors and you really want them.still praying

Susie Taylor
Susie Taylor

I'm just honored that I share the same name with one of these amazing women!!!

Alison Newman
Alison Newman

Have a things to do list when I'm feeling stuck/depressed or not having a say in how my day/life is going.

Michaele Mickey Acary
Michaele Mickey Acary

How do you overcome self-sabatoge. What is your branding and marketing strategy?