This is the month everyone is talking about love. Kids are asking other kids to “Be My Valentine.” Wedding proposals are taking place all across the country, and some couples are even taking it a step further and getting married on February 14. Florists are inundated with last minute requests and jewelry stores have larger inventories. Because this is the time we are expected to celebrate how much we love someone.
But, we all know love is an action word – something that is not only demonstrated by flowers, gifts, cards and candy. So, how do we show love to those special people in our lives every day of the year? Here are 3 ways to show love 24/7, 365.
I think honor is such a lost component of relationships. In just about every facet of our lives, we have to honor someone, so why wouldn’t we have the same standard at home? At work, you have to honor your management. At church, you honor your pastor. The military honors rank: from the private to the five-star general, honor is paramount. Finally, regardless of political affiliation, we all honor the President of the United States.
[inlinetweet prefix=”#ShowLove | ” tweeter=”@9tenets; @paulcbrunson” suffix=””]Gentlemen, we must honor our wives in a way that is becoming of our relationships. [/inlinetweet] We often think about our relationships in the same sense of a “kingdom” mentality. Men claim to be the king of their castle. That’s fine, but understand that women are our Queens. How you treat her in the company of others (and in private) speaks volumes about how you show love toward her. Serve her all year round – not only on Valentine’s Day. Some practical ways to do this could include: while picking something at a store or restaurant, always considering her. If you want something, consider what she may need and may desire before yours. Finally, when you place her needs higher than yours, you reserve a special place of honor just for her. Consistently show your love by demonstrating honor.
I was speaking with a good friend and she told me something that the person she was dating did for her. They were sitting in a car and she reached to lock her door. He said, “You don’t have to lock the door, no one will bother you while I’m here.” You could hear the passion in her voice as she said, “I LOVE THAT!” Women want to feel secure in every way. They want to feel secure financially, emotionally, spiritually and physically.
Men, if you want to show love and receive that same unconditional love in return, do everything possible to make your lady feel and know she’s secure. Practical ways to do this could include: providing through paying the bills, being open and honest about your relationships and interactions with other women, being the spiritual leader in your household, and literally making sure to secure the perimeter of your house (fences, locks, alarms, smoke detectors, etc.). Show love to her by making it a point ensure her security while in your care.
Loyalty is another lost concept in our culture. No one stays at a job for thirty years anymore, as there is very little loyalty on either the side of the employer-employee relationship. We definitely lack loyalty in our personal relationships and I think we struggle with loyalty as a society.
Without this a principle, the good thing you have going on could be in jeopardy. All women want a man who is loyal to them. Men want a woman who shows an undeniable loyalty to them as well. Loyalty is not a bad word. In fact, loyalty is powerful! It’s a principle you can revisit when times get tough. It’s something that fuels you as you work through those tough times…together! I think loyalty is the kind of love that endures when the friends and money leave and you’re left out on your own. It’s when the husband or wife stays around when you lose your job, your benefits, your health, your savings. If you have it, hold on to it! Loyalty is showing your love through the great times and the rough times, no matter what.
Show love to your mate by incorporating the above-mentioned principles of honor, security and loyalty within every facet of your relationship. Be consistent and committed with these traits, and you will show love to your mate each and every day…including Valentine’s Day!
Fellas, what are some other ways to show your love everyday? Ladies, you can chime in, too!
This post was written by Jay Hurt. Jay is a Relationship Coach, columnist and author of the book, The 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship, for Singles. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook and his website.