The following post is written by Jay Hurt. Jay is a Relationship Coach, columnist and author of the book, The 9 Tenets of a Successful Relationship, for Singles. You can find him on Twitter, Facebook and his website.
Growing up in the Southeast, you could have mistaken me for a kid from Harlem that grew up next to Rucker Park if you only knew me by how much basketball I played. I was severely addicted to the game. I was a point guard and although I was just an average player, there was one thing I was going to do in every game if at all possible—I was determined to impose my will.
We have to grow this skill when it comes to our desires and aspirations.
I had an inherent responsibility to lead since I was handling the ball on most possessions. If I wanted a certain player to have the ball, they would get it. If I saw a mismatch in our favor, we would attack it. If I felt we should slow the game down, it would happen. On rare occasions, I might take my defender to the hoop, two or three times in a row.
Those are some of several ways I was controlling my circumstances and putting my imprint on the situation. Let’s talk about how you can do the same and impose your will to realize your dreams.
It’s particularly important to take a page out of the book of an entrepreneur: when you are running your own business, it’s imperative to set your own targets, vision and deadlines to make things happen. The same is true for all areas of your life that you want to improve. Whether the idea is to accomplish a certain personal milestone, launch a new product or design a roadmap for a rollout of your services to your clients, you have to create these targets and put in the time, creativity and dedication to reach that vision. Inevitably, none of this will come easy. These are times you have to impose your will. We have to go to what athletes call “another level” or “2nd gear.” We must be able to turn our performance up a notch to achieve our dreams. Sometimes this occurs through sheer will.
Set the mark, put in the work, then hit the mark.
You may have heard it said, “Team work makes the dream work.” That may sound kinda corny (OK, it is). Real talk, though…it’s one-hundred percent on point. Entrepreneurs especially, please be aware that everyone doesn’t need to know about your dreams or buy into your dreams—but someone does. It could be a friend, family member, someone in your industry, employee, intern – whomever. It helps to have someone to at least bounce ideas off of. Someone who is not necessarily a “yes man/woman,” but they are in your corner. These are the people who allow you to go after your vision full throttle. Your team lifts you up on days when you are down. Your team rocks with your vision and pulls the reins when you are “doing too much.” A great team actually helps you to impose your will, but they also bring guidance support, and offer much-needed cheerleading.
Pardon the Imposition
Imposition is not always pretty. It will often be met with great reluctance. Who (besides you) wants to believe you can have the relationship of your dreams? Who believes you can build an incredible business from nothing more than a website and creativity? No one outside of you or your team may believe in you and your dreams. Realize this going in. That’s really where the fun begins. This isn’t about someone else…this is about you! For example, if you need to close 3 houses a month to make it as a realtor, do it! Build the knowledge base and network to make it happen!
Martin Luther King imposed his will peacefully. Barack Obama imposed his will with an incredible team. Mother Teresa imposed her will humbly and faithfully. LeBron James imposes his will forcefully. I impose my will (these days) creatively.
How will you choose to impose your will to realize your dreams in 2014?